Everyone has arguments and disagreements with their partners, family members and others close to them from time to time. We all do things at times we regret which can cause unhappiness to those we care about. But if this begins to form a consistent pattern, then it is an indication of domestic abuse.

Do you think you might be in an abusive relationship? These questions may help you:

  • Have they tried to stop you from seeing your friends or family?
  • Have they stopped you from going to college or work?
  • Do they constantly call, text or follow you?
  • Do they accuse you of flirting or cheating?
  • Do they constantly put you down, criticise or call you names?
  • Are you ever afraid of them?
  • Have they ever deliberately destroyed any of your things?
  • Have they ever hurt or threatened you, your children or pets?
  • Have they ever forced you to do something that you really did not want to do?
  • Have they ever tried to stop you from taking medicine or getting medical help?
  • Have they said you will be deported or lose your children?
  • Have they ever forced you to have sex with them or others?
  • Have they ever tried to stop you from leaving the house?
  • Do they blame their use of alcohol/drugs, mental health condition or family history for their behaviour?
  • Are you or have you been forced into marriage?

If you answered yes to one or more of the questions, it is possible you are experiencing domestic abuse.

You may want to call the Safer Futures helpline on 0300 777 4 777 to discuss this further.