There are steps you can take to help keep yourself (and your children) safe.


  • Tell someone you trust about the situation.
    Ask them to keep an eye on you. Decide a safe word or phrase you can use (spoken, text or sign) to let them know you are not ok. Agree what they would do if you use the safe word (such as call the police).
  • Plan what to do in an emergency.
    Plan and rehearse a safe exit from the property, if unable to leave the property identify which room at home feels safest. Consider which friends or family members you can turn to. In an emergency, if you can’t leave the house, try to block yourself in the safest room and call 999.
  • Teach your children how and when to call 999.
    Give your children permission to call 999 in an emergency. Make sure they also know how to give their name and address to emergency services. Ask neighbours to call 999 if they hear a disturbance.
  • Be ready to leave in an emergency.
    Keep copies of important documents, some emergency money, any medication and a packed bag in a safe place, or with a trusted friend or family member.
  • Keep your phone close and fully charged.
    Put important numbers on speed dial. Consider obtaining an extra phone, for emergencies if safe to do so. If you are unable to speak on a 999 call, press 55 on the keyboard or cough.
  • Keep an itemised record of unwanted contact or abuse.
    Include the date and time of when it occurred and how it made you feel. (Only do this if you have a secure place to store it.)
  • If you’re planning to leave, ask for help.
    Get support and advice from people you trust on how you can leave in the safest way possible.
  • Judgement and Intuition.
    If the situation is serious use your judgement and intuition to protect yourself and children.
  • Online Safety.
    Devices may have been compromised, your safest bet is to assume they have been. If you are not technically savvy you may want to ask a trusted friend, family member or use a PC dealer to help you to ensure online safety. For more in depth safety plans click here.