What are signs of Domestic Abuse?
Domestic abuse is a serious issue that affects people across all backgrounds, ages, and communities. It’s more than just physical violence, it can take many forms, often hidden behind closed doors. This guide will help you understand the different types of domestic abuse, recognise the warning signs, and know when to seek help.
What are the different types of domestic abuse?
Recognising the various forms of abuse is key to identifying when someone may be at risk.
Here are the main types:
- Physical abuse
- Hitting, slapping, punching or pushing
- Restraining or locking someone in
- Preventing access to medical care
- Physical intimidation or threats of violence
- Emotional and psychological abuse
- Constant criticism or belittling
- Gaslighting (making someone question their own reality)
- Isolating someone from friends or family
- Threats to harm loved ones or pets
- Sexual abuse
- Forcing or coercing someone into sexual activity
- Withholding contraception
- Sexual name-calling or humiliation
- Any non-consensual sexual contact
- Financial abuse
- Taking control of someone’s money or income
- Preventing them from working or accessing financial support
- Running up debts in their name
- Monitoring how every penny is spent
- Coercive control
A pattern of behaviour that seeks to control, isolate or intimidate someone. It may include:
- Tracking movements or using surveillance
- Dictating what someone wears or eats
- Restricting access to phone, transport or the internet
- Making someone feel they are constantly walking on eggshells
What are the signs of domestic abuse?
Domestic abuse is not always easy to spot. Victims may hide the abuse out of fear, shame or confusion.
Some warning signs include:
- Unexplained injuries or excuses for bruises
- Sudden withdrawal from social activities or family
- A partner who is overly possessive or constantly checks up on them
- Anxiety, depression or low self-esteem
- Financial struggles with no clear explanation
- Repeated cancellations of plans or reluctance to speak freely
What questions should I ask if I think someone is being abused?
If you’re concerned someone may be experiencing domestic abuse, here are some gentle ways to approach the situation:
- “Are you feeling safe at home?”
- “Is anyone making you feel afraid or controlled?”
- “I’ve noticed you seem a bit withdrawn lately, is everything okay?”
- “Is there anything you’d like to talk about, without judgement?”
Never pressure someone to talk or take action before they’re ready. Just letting them know you’re there can make a huge difference.
Can men be victims of domestic abuse?
Yes. While women are more frequently affected, men can also be victims of domestic abuse. The signs and forms of abuse are the same, and support is available to everyone regardless of gender.
Understanding domestic abuse and its signs is the first step to helping yourself or someone else. Abuse is never the victim’s fault, and no one deserves to live in fear or control. Whether it’s physical harm, emotional manipulation, or financial control, recognising abuse is the beginning of breaking the cycle.
If something doesn’t feel right, trust your instincts. Speak to someone. Help is out there.
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