What is Domestic Abuse?
Domestic abuse is a serious and often hidden issue that affects millions of people across the UK. It can happen to anyone, regardless of age, gender, race, or background. Understanding what domestic abuse is, and how to recognise the signs, is an important step in helping to protect yourself and others.
Domestic Abuse Definition
According to the UK Government’s official definition, domestic abuse is:
“Any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive, threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are, or have been, intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality.”
— Home Office, 2021
Domestic abuse can include, but is not limited to:
- Physical abuse – hitting, slapping, pushing, or other violent behaviour
- Emotional abuse – threats, humiliation, constant criticism, or controlling behaviour
- Sexual abuse – being forced or coerced into sexual activity without consent
- Financial abuse – controlling someone’s money or preventing them from accessing resources
- Coercive control – a pattern of intimidation, isolation, and control that erodes the victim’s sense of self
Domestic Abuse and Domestic Violence
What is the difference between domestic abuse and domestic violence? In the UK, domestic violence is often used interchangeably with domestic abuse, but there is a subtle difference.
- Domestic violence typically refers to physical violence within a relationship.
- Domestic abuse is a broader term that includes physical, emotional, psychological, sexual, and financial abuse.
The shift in terminology to “domestic abuse” reflects the reality that abuse is not always physical, and can be just as damaging when it is psychological or emotional.
Signs of Domestic Abuse
Recognising the signs of domestic abuse is crucial. Some common warning signs include:
- Your partner constantly checks your phone or tracks your location
- You feel afraid to disagree or express yourself
- Your finances are controlled, or you’re not allowed to work or study
- You are isolated from friends or family
- You’ve been physically harmed or threatened
Abuse often starts subtly and can escalate over time. If something doesn’t feel right, it’s important to trust your instincts and seek support.
Abuse comes in many forms, and it’s not always easy to spot from the outside. But no one deserves to live in fear. If you’re reading this and are worried about yourself or someone else, remember, you are not alone, and help is available.